Are you? Are you willing to fail?
You have to make the agreement with yourself to do things that are uncomfortable because those things have been proven to work.
You have to make an agreement to take the time to do these things and withstand the time it will take before the change will happen.
If the most successful people are doing these things and swear by them, but you disregard the techniques and then complain that you haven’t reached success or your life hasn’t changed for the better, then you don’t have a leg to stand on. Your claims are null and void.
I still complain, but the length of time I spend complaining has gotten shorter. I don’t waste as much breath or mental power on the complaint. I know that unless I choose to do something to make a change then complaining is useless. Venting and letting it out feels good in the moment because it is like pulling out a splinter. But if I don’t do anything to keep the splinters from happening then I’ll have to keep pulling out splinters.
Most of my fails was due to not being true to my word. This is the First Agreement in Don Miguel’s book The Four Agreements.
I tend to lean towards doing what is comfortable in the moment, and then pay the price later with feelings of regret. That is a fail. It is a common thing we all do. It is a common fail.
I have failed many attempted at changing. I either didn’t make the attempt or I told myself I would only give so much effort because I can’t count on myself to continue to follow through. And you know what? I was right, because I wasn’t fully committed to the change.
I spoke to myself in failure-speak. I accepted that I would fail. I let that be the dialogue in my head.
I am still unsure about trying something new because I know there is a high probability of failure. Though, failure is only 100% guaranteed if I don’t try. I’m fighting the failure-speak in my head with new dialogue: counter postive speak. I’m still hesitant about setting goals and changing lifestyle habits. But I’m willing to keep trying, because I, now, have that positive-speak in my head.
I get to choose which dialogue to listen to. That knowledge is pretty powerful.