Are You Willing to Fail

Are you? Are you willing to fail?
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You have to make the agreement with yourself to do things that are uncomfortable but have been proven to work.
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You have to make an agreement to take the time to do these things and withstand the time it takes before the change will happen.
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If the most successful people are doing these things and swear by them, but you disregard the techniques and then complain that you haven’t reached success or your life hasn’t changed for the better, then you don’t have a leg to stand on. Your claims are  null and void.
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I still complain, but the length of time I spend complaining is shorter. I don’t waste as much breath or mental power on the complaint. I know that unless I choose to do something to make a change then complaining is useless. Venting and letting it out feels good in the moment because it is like pulling out a splinter. But if I don’t do anything to keep the splinters from happening then I’ll have to keep pulling out splinters.
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Some of my recent fails:
  • Cold shower in the morning. Did it then stopped.
  • Got up to write in the morning. Did it for a month straight, then stopped.
  • Exercise in the morning. Did it then stopped.
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I was not being true to my word.  This is the first Agreement in Don Miguel’s Four Agreements.
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I lean toward doing what is comfortable in the moment but then pay the price later. That is a fail. It is a common thing we all do. It is a common fail.
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I failed before I even attempted a lot of things. I either didn’t make the attempt or I told myself going in I would only give so much effort because I could not count on myself to continue to follow through.
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I spoke to myself in failure speech. I accepted that I would fail.  I let that be the dialogue in my head.
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Now, I fight against that dialogue.  That fight has helped me get back up. I’m back to exercising in the morning and cold showers for the last 20-30 seconds. I’m not writing every morning, but I’m 2/3rds the way there.
I am still unsure about trying something knowing there is a high probability of failure. Though, failure is only 100% guaranteed if I don’t try. I’m still fighting the failure dialogue and it has me hesitant about setting goals and changing lifestyle habits. But, I’m willing to keep trying, because I also have positive dialogue in my head.
I get to choose which dialogue to listen to. That knowledge is pretty powerful.
Nate

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